For me, there has been no question of whether or not I would change my name if I got married. I would definitely not change my name. There are a variety of reasons for this.
For one, I have a Korean name – most last names would look and sound ridiculous with my first name. Secondly, I believe it’s outdated and old-fashioned. Thirdly, I think it’s a waste of time – all the legal name changing and documents etc. Lastly but most importantly, I do not want to be merely “Mrs.” so and so; women should be their own person and keep the name that they were born with.
Emma Waverman, author of the blog, Embrace the Chaos (www.embracethechaos.ca, part of msn.ca) has written an interesting article regarding the subject –
She believes that changing a person’s name is like changing his/her identity; therefore, a woman is losing her identity if she switches to her husband’s name after marriage. She also sights the “Lucy Stone League”, an organization that believes in “equal rights for women and men to create, retain, modify and keep their own names.” (Who knew such an organization existed?)
Emma’s post drew some strong reactions judging from the comments that were left by some readers. A lot of people still seem to believe in the old-fashioned way which was unsurprising but disappointing at the same time.
To change one’s name is like being marked by marriage and being reduced the “wife-of” so and so. It’s an outdated and unnecessary practice.
Marriage should be the union of two equals and men are never marked by being the “husband-of” by taking his wife’s name. There should not be different rules for women upon marriage.
“A wife should no more take her husband’s name than he should her’s. My name is my identity and must not be lost.”
Lucy Stone, American suffragette (1818-1893)
image from http://www.cafepress.ca/lucystone
For more information on the Lucy Stone League, check out their website at www.lucystoneleague.org